To Date or Not to Date

All I have to say is who the heck cares?!?!
Yep, that’s how I’m starting this one off.
Is anyone else so tired of people having opinions on whether you date or not?
Okay, I honestly don’t care about what people say about that but there are a lot of people who do.
So this one goes out to all of you who just want to be left alone.

Ever since the beginning of time, people have been criticized for how many people you date or for your lack of dates. I mean, we hear about Taylor Swift, Kim Kardashian and all these other women who have been deemed “sluts”, “black widows”…seriously, people out there are, how do I put it nicely….not nice (okay, I don’t like swearing).
First of all, we all have got to stop calling each other sluts, and degrading one another. It gives everyone else who already thinks of us inferior to do the same. Stop pressuring your friends about dating or being with someone, just be supportive and listen.

Who cares about how many people they’ve dated, how many times they’ve been married, have they offended you in any way?
I don’t know how many times I’ve heard “aww, you’re a nice girl, you’ll find someone soon enough”, after I’ve told people I’m single. Or the “wow, you’ve been single for two years, how do you survive? (I’ve ‘survived’ quite nicely, thanks!)
News Flash! I know I’ll find someone but it’s my choice when and where and how…I don’t need someone setting me up. It’s my body, my mind, I know when I’ll want to do this. Why can’t you just let me be happy with who I am right now. And I’m pretty sure there are so many girls in my shoes, who probably just want to be left alone. When did being single become this horrible thing.

Then there are people who criticize you for dating too much. Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t know that anyone had any say in that. People are free to do what they want their lives, as long as they aren’t hurting or infringing the rights of others. Yes, don’t play with feelings and all that stuff, but how many people you date is no ones business, or your lack of dates for that matter.

We are all adults here, we can date, not date, be happy, not be happy. Seriously. I mean, I’m 23 years old and I’m in the best relationship with myself. I take care of myself, I treat myself, I even argue with myself. I’m having fun and I know that when I will be ready to share my personal relationship with someone. I mean, it could happen at any time. Cause you also can’t control feelings but still, it’s no ones business.

Another piece of advice, don’t date someone because you feel alone. That is unhealthy. Please don’t rely on someone else to make you happy.

So here’s another one of my daily rants…just don’t assume you know someone and what they want with their lives. The only time I will ever have a say in a relationship is if it’s abusive. Don’t be in one of those please.

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